Talking About Death With Children: Expert Advice for Fort Lauderdale

FORT LAUDERDALE - Child development experts recommend honesty, simplicity, and age-appropriate language when talking to children about death. Shielding them from loss can impede their understanding and coping skills.

Experts suggest asking children what they already know about a situation before explaining it. Instead of saying a loved one "went to sleep," which can create a fear of sleep, explain directly: "Grandma’s heart got too tired and stopped working, so she died." This approach avoids confusion and potential fear.

Children experience grief differently based on age. Those aged 2 to 7 often perceive death as separation, leading to feelings of abandonment. They may exhibit tantrums, behavioral issues, or problems with eating, sleeping, or toileting. Very young children under 2 might become irritable and refuse to talk.

Children between 7 and 12 begin to understand death as permanent. They may view it as a personal threat, fear dying, or withdraw socially. Symptoms include difficulty concentrating on schoolwork or daily tasks.

Teenagers, understanding death similarly to adults, may express grief through dramatic or reckless behaviors, such as substance use or unsafe practices. Parents should monitor behavioral changes and seek professional help if a teen struggles, showing preoccupation with death or giving away belongings.